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Training your man to adapt to your female led relationship

In order to train you will need to establish the things you want him to learn. You can get some from your list of relationship ideals such as fidelity and intimacy or some from your life direction goals and his cry for help. 

Generally what you want your man to learn in your female led relationship and what he wants to learn are very different. You want him to learn to overcome his bad habits, work independently, find fulfillment in growing, gain confidence in your leadership and participate as your supportive follower. He want to learn how to serve your body, obey your commands, please you sexually, humble himself and learn what it is like to surrender. Because of the difference and size of the task at hand you must choose your targets. When faced with a large number of tasks you must prioritize them, take the top ten and do as many as you can. Delegate where you can and just maintain a list of the ones that don't get done. There is, however, the added complication of keeping both of you motivated.

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The benefits for men in FLR

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  • Indulge your fantasies.
  • Surrender to female authority.
  • Get closer to your Mistress by serving her body.
  • Become a better lover to your Mistress.
  • Remain confident by knowing the rules and consequences.
  • Knowing her expectations.
  • Express your willingness to submit.
  • Learning new things.
  • Helped in becoming a better lover.
  • Bring harmony to your family by serving.
  • Stop bad habits.
  • Encourage your Mistress as a successful leader.
  • Help normalize female led relationships.
  • Learn greater intimacy, connection and vulnerability.
  • Promote togetherness, connection and relationship longevity.
  • Work towards goals together.

The benefits for women in FLR

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"There should be zero downside to female led relationships when entered into with open eyes and a whole heart between two people who love each other." -- A BBS entry from Asserting leadership

  • A varied and interesting sex life.
  • As much control over your relationship, him and your life together as you want.
  • Being able to be bitchy, angry and condescending without conflict.
  • Becoming a better lover to your man.
  • Build a formal relationship agreement.
  • Expanding your leadership as you please.
  • Expanding your sex life as you please.
  • Get him to do as much of the housework as you like.
  • Greater respect from your man.
  • Growing confidence as a leader.
  • Having a more confident man who knows the drill.
  • Helping him to become a better lover.
  • Helping him to improve his health and well being.
  • Helping him to stop bad habits.
  • Indulging in your kinks and his as you choose.
  • More intimacy as desired.
  • Nurturing as much or as little as you want.
  • Pampering from your man and receiving as much as you want.
  • Promoting togetherness, connection and relationship longevity.
  • Satisfaction of pleasing your lover.
  • Teach and create change as much as you want.
  • Work towards goals together.

Roles for men in FLR

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The MALE co-leader.
The co-leader  role exists in level 1 and 2 FLRs where the woman is leading 1-3 of the food groups and the man is leading or co-leading the remaining food groups. He likely does more support then the average male in a male led relationship and seeks to please her as an adoring lover. He will be actively involved in decision making and live a semi-independent life.

The MALE supportive.
The supportive male will likely take some criticism but all in all will live a rather normal life. His role is to support his partner by taking up tasks that allow and facilitate her leadership and to be her partner in life. He will be actively involved in decision making and live a modestly independent life. - If any roles was like a role reversal from traditional relationships, this one is like that.

The MALE servant.
The servant will be dedicated to the support and pleasure of his woman. He has set his heart to server her in such a way as to be a benefit to them both. He will be involved in the decision making to whatever level is helpful to them as a couple. His life will revolve around his woman and their family, he will have some independence.

The MALE slave/subject.
A slave by definition is the property of another. In this case a consensual slave by choice. The male has made this decision to streamline decision making and authority in his relationship and to show devotion to his woman. He may be involved in decisions or they may be made for him. His life will revolve around his woman and their family, he will have no independence unless granted permission to do so.

The MALE alfa slave.
Alfa slaves are a subset of slaves and exists at least on the lore of the internet. They often are a man's man (manly). An alfa can only be an alfa if there is another male in the house that he is superior too. Modern mythology places the alpha as the sexual slave of a woman. Often in the lore the alpha male uses the beta male for sexual gratification - there is no clear evidence of any such role yet, it may only exist in fantasy.

The MALE beta slave.
Beta slaves are a subset of slaves and exists at least on the lore of the internet. They often are a weaker, passive or slavish man. An beta can only be an beta if there is another male in the house that he is inferior too. Modern mythology places the beta as the cuckold, sissy, cleaning, domestic or humiliation slave of a woman - there is no clear evidence of this yet, as it is un-studied. This idea is pervasive in internet porn as a fetish and no study exists to quantify or justify it, it may only exist in fantasy.

Roles of a woman in FLR

Female led relationships have been with us from time in memorial but only recently have we begun to study them and come to some understanding about how they work - the relationship dynamic, the roles and the practices of people living or experimenting with FLR. Of course in any relationship there are 2 people; and in the case of FLR the female is leading.

There is no rule written that female relationships were exclusively between women and men even though this site favors that idea. Since we opened the can of worms why can't and FLR exist between a woman and a woman - "They do" And why is the women limited to one man - male or female? Relationships exist between two people but the scope of the "female led" part of FLR could and sometimes does exist with more than one. This article however is focused in interpersonal relationships between a man and a woman.

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We mostly consider relationships as between a woman and a man as is the ideal and the stated goal for couples is marriage among the religious right. Yes the Christian ideal was also the earth's ideal for many thousands of years. Historically polygamy has been both immoral and illegal while the rich and famous rulers enjoyed harems and stables and some Mormons secretly practiced it - outside of Christian done it existed but never the nom or ideal. Why is it most of us see coupling up as the ideal? Consider the standard of a man with two women (which is sexy and he is a lucky guy) and a woman with two men (how is she viewed).

All that said, FLR is not a new clean slate because we all still live in society with its standards and double standards; so everything a woman decides to do that is outside the norm of coupling up will seem to many to be odd and perhaps in some ways immoral or impure. The role of man in FLR is really up to the leadership of the woman and the willingness of the man. Some of the roles exist in lore and have not been studied or quantified and may only exist in the context of internet porn.

 

Roles for women in FLR


The FEMALE co-leader.
In FLR a woman is never less that a co-leader where she leads 1-3 of the food groups and co-leads or follows in the remaining food groups. The co-leaders would be exist in level 1 or 2 FLRs and would look fairly normal to someone looking in form outside. He  would be "The MALE co-leader."


The FEMALE leader.
The leader female would lead a man in all of the food groups but may only control 2 of the 5. The leader would be in a level 2 or 3 FLR and would be the dominant authority in the home. Her man would be either "The MALE co-leader mate", "The MALE supportive mate", or "The MALE servant mate". She will have learned you don`t need to own all food groups to assert real leadership and management control.

The FEMALE dictator/ruler.
The dictator female is in command of her relationship and enjoys a streamlined decision making process. She either is in a level 3 or 4 FLR. She controlls all 5 food groups. Her male counter parts would be "The MALE supportive", "The MALE servant", or "The MALE slave/subject".

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