Female led relationships have been with us from time in memorial but only recently have we begun to study them and come to some understanding about how they work - the relationship dynamic, the roles and the practices of people living or experimenting with FLR. Of course in any relationship there are 2 people; and in the case of FLR the female is leading.
There is no rule written that female relationships were exclusively between women and men even though this site favors that idea. Since we opened the can of worms why can't and FLR exist between a woman and a woman - "They do" And why is the women limited to one man - male or female? Relationships exist between two people but the scope of the "female led" part of FLR could and sometimes does exist with more than one. This article however is focused in interpersonal relationships between a man and a woman.
We mostly consider relationships as between a woman and a man as is the ideal and the stated goal for couples is marriage among the religious right. Yes the Christian ideal was also the earth's ideal for many thousands of years. Historically polygamy has been both immoral and illegal while the rich and famous rulers enjoyed harems and stables and some Mormons secretly practiced it - outside of Christian done it existed but never the nom or ideal. Why is it most of us see coupling up as the ideal? Consider the standard of a man with two women (which is sexy and he is a lucky guy) and a woman with two men (how is she viewed).
All that said, FLR is not a new clean slate because we all still live in society with its standards and double standards; so everything a woman decides to do that is outside the norm of coupling up will seem to many to be odd and perhaps in some ways immoral or impure. The role of man in FLR is really up to the leadership of the woman and the willingness of the man. Some of the roles exist in lore and have not been studied or quantified and may only exist in the context of internet porn.
Roles for women in FLR
The FEMALE co-leader.
In FLR a woman is never less that a co-leader where she leads 1-3 of the food groups and co-leads or follows in the remaining food groups. The co-leaders would be exist in level 1 or 2 FLRs and would look fairly normal to someone looking in form outside. He would be "The MALE co-leader."
The FEMALE leader.
The leader female would lead a man in all of the food groups but may only control 2 of the 5. The leader would be in a level 2 or 3 FLR and would be the dominant authority in the home. Her man would be either "The MALE co-leader mate", "The MALE supportive mate", or "The MALE servant mate". She will have learned you don`t need to own all food groups to assert real leadership and management control.
The FEMALE dictator/ruler.
The dictator female is in command of her relationship and enjoys a streamlined decision making process. She either is in a level 3 or 4 FLR. She controlls all 5 food groups. Her male counter parts would be "The MALE supportive", "The MALE servant", or "The MALE slave/subject".